I don’t think adventure should be a once in a lifetime event. It’s not about finding lost cities in the jungle or climbing mountains or about traveling to the other side of the world. It certainly could be if that’s what you want, but most people have a hard time fitting that into their lives.
However, I do believe we can all benefit from a sense of adventure. A sense of wonder, and of play. Of excitement and of gratitude.
But we get too caught up in our day-to-day lives, in paying the bills and keeping our heads above water, in getting the kids to school and homework done and finding time to vacuum or finding the vacuum at all.
Adventure sounds like a very large thing to try to fit into a schedule that’s already packed full.
How to add adventure into every day life? These are the things I’m playing with:
Noticing. Paying attention to the little things in life. Pretending I’m a journalist, making notes about the adventures I’m having right under my own nose. Deliberately and consciously looking for the parts of life that are already pretty darn wonderful, even if only one or two things come to mind.
Making space. By looking at my life and deciding what’s there that I don’t want anymore, that I don’t need. Things I’m holding onto out of habit or guilt or sentiment. Projects I thought I’d do someday, but just aren’t interested in anymore. Commitments I took on out of duty. It’s all in the way.
Schedule the fun. Sounds counter-intuitive, I know. But if I know I have a date with myself to go hula hooping, or check out a new gallery I’ve had my eye on, or whatever I want, it makes it easier to keep that time free. (And if someone asks me to do something, I can say there’s something else on my calendar, sorry! I don’t have to tell them it’s an appointment to go check on the flowers in the park.)
Cultivate a sense of the ridiculous. Being able to get past the seriousness of a situation lets me have a good time, no matter where I am. I’m not lost, I’m exploring. Again.
Let go of old habits. So much of my thinking space is filled by old habits and stories that I have told myself so often that I no longer even question if those stories are true or if they help me. Start asking myself “Why?”
Bring in new qualities. I’m playing a game of listing out five alternate careers. Archeologist? Potter? Manuscript expert? And then doing a little scribbling on what about those alternate careers is interesting to me, what qualities and essences of those alternate careers can I bring into my life now.
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Comments: Hi there! These are the things I’m playing with. They may or may not work for you. I’d love to hear what you’re playing with.